Real Men. Real Shifts. Real Sex Worth Having.

What felt frustrating, confusing, or off in your relationship or sex life before this work?

I was having trouble finishing too fast when having sex with my girlfriend. It felt like sex was rushed and forced some days, especially after long, busy days. I would often have performance anxiety that I would get to an orgasm too quickly.

There were times I couldn’t sleep thinking about the issues I was having in the bedroom.

Since doing this work, what changes have you noticed in yourself or your relationship?

I have noticed I have been more mindful about being in the present moment and relaxed. Clare helped me to learn to have a mixture of relaxation and arousal and to enjoy every moment with my partner, even if it doesn’t end in an orgasm. Me and her together enjoying the moment; touching and feeling each other’s bodies and enjoying every moment of togetherness. 

I also learned to ease my mind and didn’t have as much performance anxiety and realized it wasn’t a big deal if I reached an orgasm quickly or not.

Clare recommended using visualization to visualize having a good sex session with my girlfriend and that helped me to get that feeling of a great session running through my head as well.

Anything That Surprised You?

Was there anything you didn’t expect to change, but did?

I was surprised to learn that you can be relaxed and aroused at the same time and can control your sexual energy by staying in a more relaxed state.

I was surprised how comfortable I was in these sessions with Clare and able to visualize me and my girlfriend together while me and Clare were in our session together.

Beyond Sex or Intimacy

Has this work affected other areas of your life?
(Confidence, communication, stress, relationships, etc. If yes, how?)

I was able to sleep better and feel more comfortable with my girlfriend. Even if our sex sessions didn’t last as long as we wanted, I didn’t feel as bad and I wasn’t as hard on myself because I had been working on the issue.

Who Would You Recommend This Work To?

What kind of man do you think would benefit most from this work?

I think anyone would benefit from meeting with Clare whether they are having issues or not. Clare is so great to talk to and gives you a different perspective you may have never seen. Her experience really shows and you can feel comfortable you are working with an expert.

Anything Else You’d Like to Add? (Optional)

Clare is such a wonderful person beyond the work she does. I enjoy every second I’m with her and she is always there to listen. I am very thankful for my relationship with Clare and feel like I am going to see a friend every time I visit. 

What felt frustrating, confusing, or off in your relationship or sex life before this work?

 I was generally content but was missing that special connection with my partner that got lost in the daily churn of managing life and raising kids.  

Since doing this work, what changes have you noticed in yourself or your relationship?

I have learned many many new concepts that I wasn't aware of or had disregarded as ‘way out there’, and now have a whole new perspective on understanding mine and my partner's erotic blueprints, sensing and moving sexual energies, how to utilize breath work to get into the same frequency as my partner, and much more. 

Anything That Surprised You?

Was there anything you didn’t expect to change, but did?

Working with Clare I learned a lot more about my partner's physiological changes and most importantly, how to communicate better about this as well as my own ‘wants’ when it comes to pleasure.  I learned how to get out of my head and into my body, and now am helping my partner learn this as well.

Beyond Sex or Intimacy

Has this work affected other areas of your life?
(Confidence, communication, stress, relationships, etc. If yes, how?)

Working with Clare has enabled me to increase my mindfulness at work, as well as improving directness and clarity in my communication skills, and increased my EQ.

Who Would You Recommend This Work To?

What kind of man do you think would benefit most from this work?

Men struggling with connecting with their partners or couples who need to reignite the spark in their relationships.

Thank you so much for helping me 

Before We Worked Together

What felt frustrating, confusing, or off in your relationship or sex life before this work?

After many years of marriage, although our life together in all other ways was wonderful, our sex life needed a jump start.

What’s Different Now

Since doing this work, what changes have you noticed in yourself or your relationship?

I learned techniques to connect emotionally prior to any genital contact that created the anticipation leading up to sex that resulted in an explosive orgasm for each of us.

Was there anything you didn’t expect to change, but did?

I was surprised to discover that there exists various types of sexuality. Through working with Clare I discovered a sexuality fueled by the body’s energy, not just conscious desire. It is more rewarding with a much deeper connection. It leaves me feeling full instead of drained.

Beyond Sex or Intimacy

Has this work affected other areas of your life?

(Confidence, communication, stress, relationships, etc. If yes, how?)

I came to my coaching relationship with Clare with many questions regarding my professional life, my cancer treatment, and many other aspects of my personal life. Clare was, and continues to be, a wise and sympathetic adviser. She listens to me with an open mind and then asks incisive questions that facilitate my decision-making process. She helps me to evaluate opportunities as they arise and then makes suggestions to allow me to take full advantage of the worthwhile ones. When disappointments occur in my life, drawing in part upon events in her own eventful life, she is able to help me work through them and, in many cases, turn lemons into lemonade.

What kind of man do you think would benefit most from this work?

Honestly I think almost anyone would receive personal growth from working with Clare, especially someone struggling with sexual issues. It would help for the person to be open minded and willing to step outside the box. It is truly amazing what exists out there.

What felt frustrating, confusing, or off in your relationship or sex life before this work?

My marital relationship felt distant, cold, and uncaring primarily due to my partner’s alcoholism.  I was frustrated sexually.  When we did have sex there was a feeling of emotional disconnection.  It was merely a physical release of built up anxiety.

Since doing this work, what changes have you noticed in yourself or your relationship?

Even though the alcoholism is still there, I see my partner in a different light.  I truly care for her again and strive to fight her addiction with her. Sex has become much more of a meaningful connection.  It is no longer a rush to climax.  It is getting lost in her body and soul.  Time loses its relevance.  In fact, it is not even mandatory that sex ends in an orgasm to be satisfied.

Anything That Surprised You?

Was there anything you didn’t expect to change, but did?

I was surprised to discover that there exists various types of sexuality.  Through working with Clare, I discovered a sexuality fueled by the body’s energy, not just conscious desire.  It is more rewarding with a much deeper connection.  It leaves me feeling nourished instead of drained.

Beyond Sex or Intimacy

Has this work affected other areas of your life?
(Confidence, communication, stress, relationships, etc. If yes, how?)

I now have a new appreciation for people again, especially women.  Each person is a gift.  With all the negativity in the world today, I was beginning to subconsciously ignore and erase mankind.  Working with Clare has me approaching life from the positive side.  This in itself helps reduce my stress.

Who Would You Recommend This Work To?

What kind of man do you think would benefit most from this work?

Honestly, I think almost anyone would receive personal growth from working with Clare, especially someone struggling with sexual issues. It would help for the person to be open minded and willing to step outside the box.  It is truly amazing what exists out there.

Anything Else You’d Like to Add? (Optional)

I wish I had come across something like this many years ago, when I was younger, But, I am so thankful to have found it now.  Thank you Clare for providing your guidance, patience and positivity in a safe, nonjudgemental space so that I could expand to depths of sexuality I never knew existed.